Growing up without the father!!!(What it can lead to)

Children who live apart from their fathers are 4.3 times more likely to smoke cigarettes as teenagers than children growing up with their fathers in the home. --Source: Stanton, Warren R., Tian P.S. Oci and Phil A. Silva. "Seismographic characteristics of Adolescent Smokers." The International Journal of the

I know many teens and adolescents that have came across issues that involves peer pressure from there peers to use controlling substances and more.

Marriage and The family

A Review and Appraisal Journal of Marriage and Family 55 (August 1993).With the increasing number of premarital births and a continuing high divorce rate, the proportion of children living with just one parent rose from 9 percent in 1960 to 28 percent in 1996. Currently, 57.7 percent of all black children, 31.8 percent of all Hispanic children, and 20.9 percent of all white children are living in single-parent homes. --Source: Saluter, Arlen F. Marital Status and Living Arrangements: March 1994., US Bureau of the Census, Current Population Report. p28-484.

Marriage and the family has extremely went down . today there more and more family's that are broken leaving more children fatherless.

"Head of the household" Biological Father or Not

An estimated 24.7 million children (36.3%) live absent their biological
father. --Source: National Fatherhood Initiative, Father Facts, (3rd Edition):
.Children who were part of the "post war generation" could expect to grow up
with two biological parents who were married to each other. Eighty percent did.
Today, only about 50% of children will spend their entire childhood in an intact
family. --Source: David Pocono, American Family Decline, 1960-1990:

Most of the head of household living arrangement today is not the biological father. They are mainly significant others, step fathers, or just ale acquaintances. This can lead to several problems in the young adolescent life.

"More Statistics"

Researchers have found though the The National Center For Fathering
Statistics Available on their website... http://www.fathers.com/The direct link to the following
statistics were sourced at the following URL....Source: http://www.fathers.com/research/ According to 72.2 % of the
U.S. population, faithlessness is the most significant family or social problem
facing America. --Source: National Center for Fathering, Fathering in America
Poll, January, 1999.

"More Statistics"

Researchers have found though the The National Center For Fathering
Statistics Available on their website... http://www.fathers.com/The direct link to the following
statistics were sourced at the following URL....Source: http://www.fathers.com/research/ According to 72.2 % of the
U.S. population, faithlessness is the most significant family or social problem
facing America. --Source: National Center for Fathering, Fathering in America
Poll, January, 1999.

Unsolved Problems with the Fathers

Americans unresolved father problems. Over half of Americans agree
that most people have unresolved problems with their fathers. Cumulatively,
55.6% agreed with this statement, up from 54.1% in our 1996 poll. More
non-whites (70.4%) than whites (56.3%) were in agreement. Interestingly, the
generation who has experienced more father absence, 18- to 24-year-old,
displayed the highest level of agreement (67.2%). Income was also a
differentiating factor: of the respondents making $25,000 or less, 70.1% agreed,
compared to only 48.0% among those who make more than $50,000.

Statistics on minority Father's

Researchers have found though the The National Center For Fathering Statistics Available on their website... http://www.fathers.com/The direct link to the following statistics were sourced at the following URL....Source: http://www.fathers.com/research/ According to 72.2 % of the U.S. population, faithlessness is the most significant family or social problem facing America. --Source: National Center for Fathering, Fathering in America Poll, January, 1999.

What is a father?

Fathers need to understand and realize that children need to have both parents involved in their life and that include, a father. A father is someone who nurtures and be apart of their child life emotional and being there physically. Children need set security in their lives.

A Madison area program, near you

There is a place for you, The Urban League of Greater Wisconsin can help you. Located at 151 East Gorham, (608) 251-8550. You can also get in contact with someone in regarding more information about this program, with going to the website: www.ulgm.org

Is the Fatherhood Program for you?

So if you know someone or if your father that is reading this, ask yourself the following: Am I behind in child support, do i need a well paying job, do I need to gain employment skills, and do I need to give voice to the issues that effect my life?

"The Fatherhood Responsiblity Program"

"The Fatherhood Responsibility Program" is an program for fathers who would have the opportunity to discuss and examine the important role of fathers in the lives of their children through giving voice.

Roles of "The MAN"

I know its not easy for men to take care of their responsibilities of being a father and other roles in life such as a businessman, brother, husband, nephew, or pastor but being able to recognize and understanding the role of father hood is extremely important.

Responsible Enough, yes or no?

Fathers are they being responsible enough, ? yes or no

There are over more than 60% single parent family whereas, the mother is the head of the household are. my question is where are the father and are they taking the responsibility that they should like the mother is?

The "Man" without the Father

The man without the father can led to many different things, a boy growing up without the male father figure around can be good and bad. In many ways and in different cultures the man without the father can help him to be nurtering to his family if the man ever deciding to, and make him learn quicker due to not having a father figure around. An example that i found was spoken form Obama and how he didn't have a father.

Obama spoke saying:

“I would say the fact that I grew up without a father in the home. What
that meant was that I had to learn very early on to figure out what was
important and what wasn’t, and exercise my own judgment and in some ways to
raise myself.
My mother was wonderful and was a foundation of love for me,
but as a young man growing up, I didn’t have a lot of role models and I made a
lot of mistakes, but I learned to figure out that there are certain values that
were important to me that I had to be true to.
Nobody was going to force me
to be honest. Nobody was going to force me to work hard. Nobody was going to
force me to have drive and ambition. Nobody was going to force me to have
empathy for other people. But if I really thought those values were important, I
had to live them out.
That’s why it’s so important for me now, both as a
United States senator and as a president candidate, but also as a father and a
husband to wake up every morning and ask myself, am I living up to those values
that I say are important

Children and the emotional state without "The Father"

Children in single-parent families are two to three times as likely as children in two-parent families to have emotional and behavioral problems. --Source:

Many children experience a variety of different emotions regarding social issues and emotional as well. Speaking form personal experience I know from not having my Dad around when i was an adolescent I have had anger issues and a very solitude person.

The "Suicide Rate" without the Father

Three out of four teenage suicides occur in households where a parent has been absent. --Source: Elshtain, Jean Bethke."Family Matters: The Plight of America's Children." The Christian Century (July 1993): 14-21.

Again you see today the number of children, teens, and young adults commit suicide due to some chronic depression issues that can come from not having the other parent around to help, lead, and direct them and a time of need.

The Facts on being FATHERLESS

Growing up without a father may be a root cause of many social ills—from crime to academic failure. There are many different issues that comes up good and bad, so being fatherless isn't the end of the world i think it make you personal become a better individual and grow stronger in life.

Education status without The Father

In studies involving over 25,000 children using nationally representative
data sets, children who lived with only one parent had lower grade point
averages, lower college aspirations, poor attendance records, and higher drop
out rates than students who lived with both parents. --Source: McLanahan, Sara
and Gary Sandefur. Growing up with a Single Parent: What Hurts, What Helps.
Cambridge: Harvard University Press, 1994.

I also know from speaking from personal experience both in my family and seeing form others. Education in a single parent household is very critical. the GPA average most likely stay at the minumin. which i personal think due to the absent of the other parent not being able to spend time an d help the child if needed i think that only one parent, one person, can only do so much.

The "Woman" without the Father

Little girls who live without a father do so not only due to death, abandonment, or divorce, but also due to physically present fathers but who are emotionally absent, or ill over a lengthy period of time in some way (clinical depression, terminal disease, etc.), or because the father is a workaholic, or because in some fashion the father is a disappointment to the daughter, as might be the case in a weak or ineffectual father. Such differing types of absence in the girl's life may have major consequences of varying kinds, since a healthy emotional and socio-psychological developmental trajectory in the early years of life does require some type of positive paternal role model.

Seeing the Self ReflectedOptimally, a little girl needs to see herself reflected
in the love she sees for herself in her father's eyes. This is how she develops
self confidence and self esteem. This is how she develops a healthy familiarity
with what a positive expression of love feels like. This is how she develops an
appreciation for her own looks, her own body. This is how she develops what
Jungians would call her 'animus,' her counter-sexual self; her masculine self,
which will help her be proactive, productive, and creative in the outer world as
she grows into adulthood.
If, however, the little girl does not have such a
relationship with the father, if she sees rejection or emotional coldness or
withdrawal in him, or if he simply is not available at all, her sense of self
will be tainted, her self confidence warped or non-existent, her portrait of a
loving relationship may be distorted or dysfunctional, and she may find herself
- no matter how pretty, vivacious, lovable, funny, or intelligent - lacking in
appeal.
Belief in the SelfClearly, self confidence and self esteem can be
forged through one's own endeavors during the life course, even if a father has
not been present, but the path to success in such endeavors, and the reasons for
which they are even attempted, tend to be quite different in the adult woman who
was raised with a positive relationship to her father, as opposed to the one who
was not. The former may excel simply because she believes in herself, while the
latter needs to excel in order to catch a glimpse of approval and recognition in
the eyes of those who give her a message of approval, honor, or prestige. The
value of such a belief in oneself, easily acquired by the woman with a positive
relationship to her father, is immeasurable in the adult life, and the lack of
it in many of the countless women who were raised without a positive father
image, may cause the life course to be fraught with difficulties.
The
Multi-faceted Arena of RelationshipsPerhaps the arena in which the most painful
process of learning how to deal with the early lack of a father is played out is
in that of relationships. If a girl has not been assured of her value as a woman
by that early relationship with the father, she finds it difficult to relate to
men precisely because she may often unconsciously seek to find that recognition
in the eyes of the beloved…and this may lead her down an early path of
promiscuity... which in turn makes her feel she is “bad”, but on she marches,
relentlessly visiting bed after bed, locking in a fierce embrace with man after
man, in the hope that this one or that one, or the next one will finally give
her that which she never had as a child - validation of herself for herself.
Marrying 'Daddy'Other women may choose another route, falling in love with
an older man and thus marrying 'daddy.' At this point many different scenarios
may ensue. If the man is at all psychologically aware (something often, but not
always lacking in older men who like younger girls), he may have a vague inkling
of what is going on. Therefore, once she starts - within the secure confines of
the relationship or marriage - the process of growth, which will inevitably lead
her to separate from her husband in some ways that are emotionally and
psychologically necessary in order for her become her own woman, he will not
blanch in fear at this process, and allow her the necessary space and freedom to
do so. In that case, the marriage will in all likelihood thrive and continue to
grow. If, however, the man is not aware, and sees her search for growth as a
threat to the superiority he felt upon marrying a young, and as yet undeveloped
woman, he will attempt to stifle her, to manipulate her psychologically by
making her believe she is worthless, silly, or, and this appears to be a
perennial favorite, that she "needs professional help in order to calm down and
behave like she used to before."
Avoiding Engaging the EmotionsAnother
possible scenario (and there are many more which for reasons of space can not be
touched upon in this article) is that of avoiding relationships totally, or of
avoiding the engagement of one's emotions (see my July
2006 Newsletter for an article about this scenario expressed as neediness -
both for men and for women). Examples here abound: the maiden aunt, who
dedicates her life to her nieces and nephews, or who becomes a teacher and
dedicates her life to her career; the nun, who dedicates her life to God, or the
prostitute, who, although she may engage her body, rarely engages her emotions.
Another example is that of the eternal seductress, who needs to remain in
control by seducing the man and never actually involving her own feelings. A
slightly more difficult to recognize version of the same scenario is played out
by the woman who consistently has relationships with married men who never leave
their respective wives for her. On an unconscious level this suits her just fine
because it gives her the perfect excuse never to have to commit herself totally.
Finding Self-Confidence and Recognition in the SelfThe core of the matter
is, of course, that the self-confidence and recognition so avidly sought must be
found within oneself rather than in the outer world - at least initially - in
order to be of lasting and true value. The world of emotions that is avoided out
of fear or because one never really learned what love is, must first be found in
oneself (i.e. it is necessary to love the self before one loves another). The
task of accomplishing this, requires that the individual become aware of him or
herself (by observing the self, the self-talk, and all emotions that occur, good
or bad, since all of these serve to give clues about the true self), and that
absolute honesty about oneself be employed in this process. Let the reader be
warned: this process is not a simple weekend project; it must be ongoing
throughout life; it must become second nature, but it will pave the road to
finding inner self-confidence and love for oneself, which will in turn lead to
the abolishment of the need for finding these things in another. This is one of
the roads to inner freedom that psychological knowledge offers.
Dr. Kortsch
is a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, relationship coach, author, and
professional speaker. She broadcasts a live weekly
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listening on her website. She can help you move towards greater personal and
relationship success with her integral approach to life and offers training and
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self. Visit Advanced Personal
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Fatherless children and the Law

Children in single parent families are more likely to be in trouble with
the law than their peers who grow up with two parents. --Source: U.S. Department
of Health and Human Services. National Center for Health Statistics. National
Health Interview Survey. Hyattsville, MD, 1988.

I think that this is definitely true because woman are most likely victimized by domestic violence also more minority males are at the higher rate for imprisonment, drug related and there and other issues.

The Sexual Behavior in the Fatherless teens

09Adolescent females between the ages of 15 and 19 years reared in homes
without fathers are significantly more likely to engage in premarital sex than
adolescent females reared in homes with both a mother and a father. --Source:
Billy, John O. G., Karin L. Brewster and William R. Grady. "Contextual Effects
on the Sexual Behavior of Adolescent Women." Journal of Marriage and Family
56(1994): 381-404. A white teenage girl from an advantaged background is five
times more likely to become a teen mother if she grows up in a single-mother
household than if she grows up in a household with both biological parents.
--Source: Whitehead, Barbara Dafoe. "Facing the Challenges of Fragmented
Families." The Philanthropy Roundtable 9.1 (1995): 21.